Have you heard this song? Probably, it's been on the radio a bunch and it's pretty good but like all songs that play on the radio a bunch it gets really annoying and now you just wanna punch Lorde in her face and say NO WE'RE NOT ON YOUR TEAM.
Then you see her dance like this and it's all forgiven and you love her all over again.
Like she lost an earring. LOL.
But, in actuality, there's a good reason as to why I've gotten stuck on the word 'team' for today's post.
Do you remember a time when you accomplished something?
Like, really accomplished something big?
Like, gotten into med school? Or gotten all 90s in university? Or married to the girl of your dreams? Achieved the job of your dreams?
Was it because you decided to do something, and by the strength of your own iron will, you managed to achieve said thing?
Sure, that's what you'll probably tell everyone, and it probably often feels like you've done it all yourself when you've accomplished something great. But I think it goes gravely, gravely overlooked just how much influence other people have in our lives and in how we do things, especially important milestones in our lives.
Our accomplishments, our dreams, they can't be achieved by ourselves and ourselves only.
When we accomplish things, it's because we have been shaped and groomed by the people and circumstances around us to accomplish these things. Now this isn't a capitalist critique or a even a critique against the idea that you can lift yourself out of your circumstances and accomplish something wonderful.
Okay, perhaps it's a bit of a critique against the second part of it. Here's the list of why I think you specifically need other people to achieve things that are often your greatest dreams.
1) We doubt ourselves and our ideas.
This is one of the major 'duh' points that nonetheless needs to get hammered into our own minds. Think of it, you're awake one night, unable to sleep, and you think of this grand idea. It's going to be big, it's something crazy, say like: a new amusement park ride. You think of the technology involved and how it's plausible, how you can market it to youths looking for a new type of thrill, and how you can manufacture it, you think of everything. Then you go to sleep with your head still buzzing. Then, when you wake up, you realize how dumb you were. Or rather, you poke holes in everything you've ever thought of until you forget about it. Because you don't tell anyone about it.
When you don't tell anyone about the ideas or dreams that you have, you leave it to yourself to doubt them and poke holes in them. We're always going to be our worst critic, and when you don't have other people to bounce ideas off of, then your dreams and ideas never get liftoff. And sure, maybe other people will poke holes in your ideas too, but if you're sharing them with people who actually care about what you have to say, it's going to be a helpful critique that will help you move forward and into something new.
2) From the head to the world
Speaking your ideas, and what you hope and dream about, is also incredibly important. If you just keep the things you want to yourself, then how do you expect it to feel real to you? It may sound trite, and maybe this whole article may seem a like a whole lot of cheese (BUT WHATEVER MY WEBSITE I DO WHAT I WANT), but just speaking out what's in your head to the world is so important to making it real. It's real because now other people, people that you hopefully trust know what it is that is on your heart and in your head. They can hold you to it, ask you about it, or sadly, more often than not, they can forget about it. But hopefully not. The point is that it's out there, and that's more real than letting it swim around in your head.
Also, it helps you to fully form these ideas. When it's in your head, especially mine, it's in a state of constant disarray, of flitting thoughts and images that come together for a bit, then disappear again, then come together in a different way. I mean, let's be real, whose brain is organized enough to keep everything that we think about a subject in an organized neuron journal? Bet yours can't. That's why even writing it down it important. It's an organization and formation step, and it's vital.
3) We're made to be in community with other people.
There's probably more points I could use, but these are the three that kind of put all these random thoughts in my head onto paper. Digitally. I digress. But this I think is the most important thing.
God made us to be in community with other people.
Simple. As. That.
Being in community people means laughing with them, crying with them (not me though, because I'm tough), sharing with them and caring about them. It means being vulnerable too, which is dangerous, but so very rewarding.
We are hardwired, from introvert to extrovert to the popular one to the outcast, for human contact and human relation. We are meant to share and be with one another. That's why as Christians we're called to be a part of a church; we are never meant to walk alone. It's all over the Bible. Heck, even people who aren't Christians can tell you this.
We're meant to share and be with other people. Sure, we can share with God our hopes and dreams. But we're meant to live our lives as Christ followers and as people in general, regardless of beliefs, with other people. God isn't a tangible human, and He doesn't expect us to share our hopes and dreams with Him and Him only.
We're meant to be, as Lorde's catchy team reminds us, on each other's team. It's cheesy. It may sound dumb.
But maybe listen to it.
You might achieve something you never thought you'd be able to before.